A Note from the Director: The Madness That Is Real Life

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Happy Wednesday mcorning, fans! The last month has been super crazy. Although you’ve probably not noticed it unless you are a #ShelfLove participant and got Your Shelf Love Challenge April Update last week laced with errors. Sorry about that! Work has been busy as I took on one of our larger clients and it caused two back-to-back business trips which has limited my blogging and related social activities.

 

In reflecting over the last month on life outside of Second Run Reviews, I realized that all the blogging routines in the world won’t save you if you don’t mesh it up with your calendar outside of your blog. Sure things will come up, but there were some things on my non-blogging calendar that I knew about ages ago and didn’t schedule around like my friend’s wedding and Mini-Con 50, Minneapolis, MN. I’m dedicated. I’m a planner. If I had a sword it would definitely be named Oathkeeper. So the fact that I didn’t rearrange my posting schedule around those events and that I’m left feeling exhausted is my own darn fault. So I’ve decided things need to change a bit.

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So what’s gonna happen? In addition to my normal blogging routine, at the start of each month, I need to evaluate my blogging schedule next to my personal calendar and make adjustments. If there’s stuff I can move, I’ll move it. So on weeks where work seems especially busy or I’ve got other commitments planned, there may be fewer posts (or no posts!). And of course, I need to ease up on feeling guilty on commenting on other blogs during that timeframe as well. Anyone got any tips to ease my Catholic guilt?

I love Second Run Reviews. I love all my fans. I’ve been blogging consistently since December 2013. So taking a break now and again isn’t a bad thing. And maybe I need to reach out for help. Every good director has a good crew to back them up. I just have to keep reminding myself that I deserve a break and I can ask for help each and every time I sit down at my computer with a cup of coffee early on a Saturday morning.

So how do you do it? How do you balance your hobbies with your real life? Do you have a secret for banishing the guilt you feel when you take some me time? Sound off in comments.

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14 responses to “A Note from the Director: The Madness That Is Real Life

  1. Yea sometimes you need to step back and take a break. It helps to have co bloggers to pick up the slack ( yay Lynn) so that you don’t get forever behind on comments ( like I am now). Otherwise I tell myself oops sorry I’ll do better next time.

    • It’s definitely a good exercise to learn to let go. 🙂 And now we have a theme song we can hum as we convince ourselves it is the right thing to do!
      Terri M., the Director
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  2. Reading Wench

    If you’ve ever read my Monday’s Minutes posts, you already know that I regularly write about how my life is often insanely busy. I can’t think of any tips off the top of my head, besides things you’re already doing, like keeping a calendar. You’ve also been doing this longer than I have, so you probably have more advice for me than the other way around, but as for the guilt, I just don’t feel guilty (and I was raised Catholic). What I feel is worried that if I don’t regularly post fresh content I’ll fall off the blogosphere and have to work my way back up again. I’m trying to make a name for myself and create a writing career from it, and I don’t want my ability to get work to be hampered because my blog doesn’t show that I write regularly. So, all I can really say for your situation is that we’ll still be here even if you need to take a break from blogging and commenting. Life gets in the way sometimes, and we’re a community that understands that. There isn’t even anything to forgive because there’s nothing wrong with having to place your “real” life ahead of your blogging one.

    • That’s the great thing about the community, right? They understand. Not every group of people you are a part of get that.

      Terri M., the Director
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  3. I wish I had advice. But I will tell you, I am drowning nine days out of ten. (That isn’t even true, it’s more like ten out of ten.) See, I have no schedule, but not because I don’t WANT one (I do!) but because there is no way for me to make one, really. My kids have such erratic sleep schedules, and my husband works 12 hour days. When he IS home, he thinks me needing time to do anything for myself is stupid (which we know isn’t true, and that HE is stupid) so I am usually just trying to get things put together at the last minute. I am tired, and frustrated, and overwhelmed, and feel so alone, BUT I love blogging. I LOVE it. I love visiting other blogs, I love reading, I love the whole community. So how do we make that balance? NO idea.

    I feel guilty for sure if I don’t have time. I am already feeling guilt at the comments I won’t be able to respond to immediately while at BEA, AND that I am behind already for this week. I know that guilt is self-inflicted, and kind of ridiculous. So YOU should NOT feel guilty about taking some time! If you need it, you need it! We’ll all still be here when you are nice and refreshed 🙂 And some day, maybe I will take my own advice 😉

    • I felt kind of silly writing the post, Shannon. But I think I needed the reassurance that it is okay to step back and take a break. And the only way to get that reassurance from an online community is to write a post.
      BTW, it’s okay to take a break. 😉

      Terri M., the Director
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  4. Ah, Catholic guilt. That’s the first time I’ve heard of the term but the definition really couldn’t be more perfect and matches my upbringing too, ha. You definitely shouldn’t feel guilty though, everyone needs a break, we are all human! If I make other plans when a post goes up, so be it, I’ll deal with it when I get home and enjoy the time I have away from it all, it will still be there when I get back. Hope you have/had fun at your friend’s wedding!

    • Thanks for the encouragement to take breaks, Alise.

      Yes, my friend’s wedding was tons of fun. Lots of dancing and cute kid antics. 🙂

      Terri M., the Director
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      Terri M., the Director
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      Twitter: @2ndRunReviews
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  5. I think I’m pretty new to blogging and I’m already experiencing a lot of this. I do my best to keep to a schedule but it doesn’t always work. I remember seeing a quote – Life is what happens when you are off making plans. Yep. Right now I’m working between Trello and Google Calendar mixed with caffeine and always feeling I’ve forgotten.. something.

    • Katy, I started using Trello and then moved over to Asana. Asana has the fine step-by-step details and then I have a Google spreadsheet that has the high level information like if I cross posted a review.

      It’s definitely a delicate balance and it was nice to write this post to let go some of the stress I was feeling about it!

      Terri M., the Director
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      Twitter: @2ndRunReviews
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  6. Nicole Hewitt

    Okay, well, I am just NOW getting to discussion posts posted to the Discussion Challenge from the beginning of this month. So, yeah, sometimes life gets in the way – and I’m giving myself grace for that. Blogging is part of my life – but not my whole life. Sometimes I have to remember that!

    Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

    • This morning I got to work and was all antsy. I was dying to write. That’s the first that has ever happened! I need to remember I have this huge bank of personal hours I hardly ever use that I need use when I this itch happens again.

      Terri M., the Director
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