While scrolling through Facebook this morning, Entertainment Weekly so kindly reminded me that the movie Good Will Hunting will be celebrating 20 years this year. It was a surprise Oscar winner in 1998. And seeing that movie was a watershed moment for me in more ways than one.
Good Will Hunting Watershed Moment #1
When I saw the movie was going through a particularly rough time. I had gone through a bad breakup and most of my girlfriends abandoned me (they went after my ex). I was feeling pretty alone. There’s a scene in the movie when Sean and Gerald are having an arguement about Will’s friends. Sean yells,
“And why does he hang out with those retarded gorillas, as you called them? Because any one of them, if he asked them to, would take a fucking bat to your head, okay? It’s called loyalty.”
In that moment, I realized that I had no friends that loyal to me.
Don’t worry in the twenty years since I sat in that darkened theatre (that no longer exists) things have changed. I have friends that will go to bat for me. I still remember the emotions I felt during that scene, especially when a friend needs me or I need a friend. Loyalty is important. Loyalty matters.
Good Will Hunting Watershed Moment #2
With Good Will Hunting coming up on 20 years, I realized that I’ve known my husband for over twenty years. Good Will Hunting was our first date. That movie started it all for us. We were married in June 2001 and haven’t looked back.
There have been good times and bad times. I won’t deny that we’ve gotten into discussion matches (we really aren’t yellers). It hasn’t been easy. But we are loyal to each other. And in this crazy world that requires me to mutter, “Damage Report.” each time I turn on the news, I’ve learned that loyalty…and I mean good honest loyalty that benefits everyone involved…is hard to come by and you need to cherish it, nurture it and maybe brag about it now and again.